10 Life Lessons For Twenty-Somethings

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In our 20s, most of us have reached a point where we have finished our education and have chosen a career path to follow. It seems like our entire life has lead up to this point and we need to make the best of it. It is as if we were living in a bubble of protection from the real world up to this point and it has now popped. Throughout my journey as a twenty-something (I'm at the halfway mark now!), I've realized certain truths about the way we think and how the real world perceives us. Here, I share a few of those realizations:

1. Realize that you are not the Best

If people say that you are "1 in a million", that still means that there are 7000 people in the world just like you. There are over 7 billion people in the world. If you think you are the best at something, there is a good chance that someone else is as good or better.

As humans, we tend to localize our success. We compare ourselves to those around us, to those that we have immediate access to, and generalize the outcome. The localization of success builds a sense of superiority that can be detrimental to one's progress and growth. The psychology is similar to that of a student who tops his high school class and stops studying in college. There is always a bigger and better league where you are not the best. One should always aim to get into a league where they can constantly learn and grow

Don't be the student who tops his high-school and stops studying in college!

2. It takes a few Years

In our twenties we are always in a rush to get to where we want to be. We want that promotion, that raise, that car, that life, and we want it NOW. In our minds, we are so far ahead that we lose sense of reality. This is when we start getting frustrated with our status quo and enter the downward spiral of self inflicted failures and frustration.

Success requires patience and perseverance. You have to be consistent and have a long term vision. Most importantly, you have to believe in what you do. It always takes a few years before you see any result from your hard work. This fact is true for all aspects of life.

When you lose sense of reality, you can fall into the frustration manhole!

3. Everything happens only Once

Everything, absolutely everything, happens only once in your life. Realize that this particular moment in which you are reading this will only happen once. If you read it again, it is a totally different event where the entire world (including you) is in a different state. Every event that occurs in your life is the first and last time it happens.

Be grateful for the moments you have and make the most out of them. Seldom do people get second chances to make up for missed opportunities. Stay in the present moment and be aware of your surroundings. Be prepared to make the leap when the timing is right.

4. Hard Work ≠ Success

Just because you work hard doesn't mean you will succeed. Success is a combination of opportunity, good fortune, good people around you and finally your talent and ability along with passion, hard work and dedication. You need to have it all at the right time to be truly successful.

Success is the outcome of a lot of factors coming together at the right time

5. Do not contribute to the Chaos

The world is made up of entropy, and there will be chaos all around you. When people are mean to you or try to take your advantage, it is natural to believe that you need to be part of it and do the same to others. 

Don't let the chaos affect your personality. Be what you are meant to be and truly realize yourself from within, regardless of your surroundings. In the short term, this may lead to some pain, but it is the key to long term and sustained happiness. If you are who you are and comfortable with it, you can be at peace and pursue true happiness without much distractions. If you contribute to the chaos, you can become deeply tangled in it.

Don't contribute to the fight cloud. Rise above it.

6. You gotta take Crap (sometimes)

In the real world, there are real people. There is no predetermined program that you need to follow or get through, no syllabus, no tests or exams to evaluate how you are doing. People are going to take advantage of your situation and they will make you do some things that you might think is unfair. 

Pick your battles and take crap when required. You always need to keep an eye on the bigger picture and look at everything holistically. If the "crap" is threatening the big picture, deal with it. But if it's something that needs to be done so you can move on, then take the crap, let it go and move on!

Sometimes you have to take the crap, let it go, and move on

7. Good education is no longer the guarantee of a good paycheck

Education doesn't always lead to a great job. People think that a degree from a great university will lead to a great job or career. While this is the best possible approach to take for a great career, know that it is not a guaranteed approach. The only thing that matters is you.. A degree, a brand name University or recommendation letters are only supporting your cause. You merely use them as tools to open doors and opportunities. You have to walk through them alone armed only with your abilities and talents that you worked on and improved while going to school. 

A great degree doesn't guarantee a great career

8. Your best and worst are yet to come

Twenties is a weird age where you have left your childhood behind and have experienced some aspects of adulthood. Twenty-somethings tend to think that they have enough experience in life to make certain judgments and rules to follow. A great achievement can lead to a sense of contentment, which is great, but detrimental to growth. A bad experience can lead to a sense of failure and lead to depression and bitterness.

Trust that life is much more than what you have experienced and learned in the last 20 or so years. Never stop learning, exploring and growing, and never let a bad event affect your future. Both the best and the worst moments of your life are yet to happen!

9. Choose Happiness

We are often chasing the idea of happiness and what we think we need to achieve it. Happiness is not tied to anything tangible. It is up to you to take a deep look into your life and determine where you are and whether or not you are happy. You need to determine what it takes for you to be happy and do it. There is no one tangible thing that is the key to happiness for everyone.

 When you experience true happiness, you would realize that there is nothing to it.. You don't need to do anything TO be happy.. You just need to BE happy

10. Stop and smell the Roses

In our 20s, it is easy to get caught up in the race of the real world. I would like to quote one of my favourite characters for this: "Life moves pretty fast. If you don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it" -- Ferris Bueller